Why I Don't Answer "Mentor Me" Emails

You can't give someone what you had to earn yourself.

Every week I get emails. "You've accomplished things. I want those things too. Will you mentor me?"

I don't answer. Not unkindly. But because the request demands something that can't be given.

A mentor isn't someone who tells you how to become a millionaire. A mentor is someone who watches you try, fail, recover, try again, and then says: you're on the right path. Much of this work happens in silence. And most of it can't be transferred.

I can't give you what I had to build. But I can tell you how I thought. Your thinking work you have to do yourself.

The question "mentor me" is really the question: give me the shortcuts. Give me the insights. Give me the path. And then I'll do it faster. This doesn't work. The path only works if you've taken it apart yourself and rebuilt it.

This is where many millionaires miss. They say: I'll mentor. They start a podcast. They write a book. They do workshops. Great. But what they give is never the thing itself. They give the map. You have to walk.

Florian became what it is only because Drago and I sat under it. We made mistakes. We learned. We restarted. We built. You can't learn this from me. You can't do it for someone else.

People who say "mentor me," they want what I have without what I did. They want the fruit without the sowing. This doesn't exist.

So what I do instead: I expose the system. I say: here's how I thought. Here's how it works. Here are the mechanics. What you do with it is yours.

A real mentor is someone who sees you and says: you can do this. Not: follow these steps. But: I see you can do this, so stop making excuses and go.

You can't get that from me. You have to give it to yourself.

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Sources: Personal observations from feedback and mentorship requests